Discipling children is not the easiest job. We need to be consistent and find alternatives to punishing our children. Parents are always scared to punish their children because they are afraid what the side effects are. Some side effects are that children feel personally threatened even if all children in the family are receiving the same punishment. The children also try to avoid the punishing parent. So for the future the children may have issues with realtionships. With the side effects there are issues for their future relationships.
There are many alternatives to harsh punishment. Consistency. Being Consistent with positive punishment is good because children will know that their behavior is not acceptable. Having a warm parent child relationship is another alternative. Distracting children with love and affection with punishment helps children know that they are doing a bad behavior and know not to do it again. Doing positive discipline helps children know it is wrong and does not scare them. And it keeps the child from being fearful of their parents.