Friday, March 2, 2012
Effects on Middle Age Children of Divorce: Melissa James
Divorce is difficult for children of any age, however it can be especially harmfull to a middle aged child who is still learning by their enviroment. This is a crucial time period for the child who is absorbing much knowledge and many lessons. Watching parents interact has an impact on how children see the world and learn to judge whats acceptable and not as well as what is right and what is wrong morally as well as socially. This is when much of the moral foundations are learned. This can be a negative thing for the child who is involved in a ugly dispute between the two adults that have provided the security to child until this time. Parents trully need to think about how this will forever impact their child. We teach respect but run down the other parent? How does the child interpret that? We teach honosty even when its uncomfortable, but child witnesses the parents dishonesty first hand. Not only does this cause the child to queshtion what really is right and wrong but it also causes resentment towards parents, frustration in general, and a sense of hopelessness. Witnessing the positive interaction can serve them well for a lifetime as well. They will be able to realize it is possible to be respectful and dignified when a major life-altering crisis arises. And unless they are the 'bubble boy' crisis will happen in thier lives at some point. How well equipped our children are to handle 'lifes situations' are being decided daily as our children watch us cope.