We all know how important discipline is as a parent. Not only does it teach your child how to act in agreement with rules, but it also helps your child learn the appropriate way to get along with others. As much as we want our children to abide by the rules at all times, it is also beneficial for the child to make their mistakes so that they are aware of possible consequences for their actions. At this point, your child is at least between the ages of 6 and 12. So, it's easy to say that you have come up with your own system of discipline, but as they grow, so should your discipline techniques. By the time your child reaches school, they are aware of the meaning of rules. Here are some effective discipline strategies:
- Use language to help solve problems- make sure your child knows they are able to express themselves
verbally rather than physically, that way they can talk to you about it versus acting out and causing a scene.
- Natural Consequences- your child must understand that there are consequences, and that they can't always
get away with forgetting to clean their room without receiving a type of punishment, or it will continue to
happen.
- Logical Consequences- these types of consequences must be logical to the child. For example, if you don't
do this than you are not going to be allowed to go to your friends house.
* When trying to implement these types of consequences in your household, you must stay firm and consistent.
When you catch your child carrying out an action you have been teaching him/her, the best way to continue to encourage that act is to positively reinforce them. You can do this by rewarding them with a small toy, sticker, etc. (I recommend that you don't reward them with candy, were trying to teach our children healthy habits, right? :) The reason this is so effective is because it gives your child a goal to work toward. If your child knows they will receive a reward for acting the way you want them to, they are more likely to continue doing so. :)
For more information: http://www.slideshare.net/MeganDurbin/parental-guide-to-discipline-for-middle-childhood
April Wiland
I agree! I especially like the part about positive reinforcement and rewarding them. Even though my daughter and I have a "bad day" I still treat her the same, tuck her in bed, say prayers, etc. I also tell her the things I like about her and how even though she misbehaved she is still a good kid and I love her regardless of the mistakes she makes. I do reward my children for their good behavior, whether it be taking them out to a nice restaurant, going to Rocket Dollar with $5 or suprising her with something that makes her feel special. Zara Foley
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ReplyDeleteDiscipline is such a tough and sensitive issue when it concerns children. Children do need discipline in order for them to learn that rules apply to them. Children do not always need to be disciplined to learn. So many times they learn from their mistakes, just like adults. Most of the time, explaining to a child that their action was not in their best interest or the best interest of someone else is all they need. Adults need to talk to them about the issue and the consequences of their action. They do not need physically disciplined to learn from the mistake. Positive encouragement is best. I have been reading a book called Switch. In chapter 11 it states, "Each journey starts with a single step." Adults need to celebrate those single steps instead of criticizing children so much of the time. Susan Davis
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