tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353018008401555908.post488757312246188214..comments2012-05-07T01:29:53.144-07:00Comments on HBSE Class Parenting Blog: Overcoming parental insecurities involved in raising a child in a non-traditional home during early childhood by James ParkerHBSE Spring 2012 Classhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09043264760049137060noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353018008401555908.post-6425892578474793582012-03-09T22:02:33.574-08:002012-03-09T22:02:33.574-08:00When I think of a non-traditional home, I think of...When I think of a non-traditional home, I think of mine. My husband and I adopted two girls. The oldest was 22 hours old when we brought her home from the hospital and the youngest was 3 days old. I had briefly met their mothers before they were born. I was at the hospital when they were born. A lot of the kids they grew up with do not know that they are adopted. Nevertheless, ours is a non-traditional home. We have always made it known to them that they were adopted. The older they got, the more inquisitive they got about who their parents were. My biggest insecurity was being afraid the girls would leave once they were old enough to be on their own. Quite the contrary. My oldest daughter is married but she either comes by the house or calls everyday. My youngest daughter is 20 and still lives at home. She keeps telling us that she is never leaving. They do both know their biological parents and siblings but have no desire to leave us. I was so insecure about what would happen when they met their biological parents. <br />Susan DavisHBSE Spring 2012 Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09043264760049137060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353018008401555908.post-13187552052552060492012-02-23T06:14:45.689-08:002012-02-23T06:14:45.689-08:00There is alot of good advice in your post. When m...There is alot of good advice in your post. When my wife and I were foster parents one of the most important things was to give the kids a sense of being safe and secure. This was not an easy task. We had to learn how to make these children feel at home. This meant including them into our everyday routine and giving them alot of attention. Sometimes our own children were put aside, but just for a short time. I remeber the first children we had in our home were three brothers who had been in foster care for over six years. In that time they had been in 15 different foster homes, ours was number 16. They stayed with us for 3 1/2 years until they were returned home. Why the difference? I believe it is because they became our kids. We treated them no different than our own, with one exception, we did not spank them, but by this time my boys were too old for spankings also. - Sam DilléHBSE Spring 2012 Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09043264760049137060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353018008401555908.post-6169826987818309312012-02-22T08:25:48.882-08:002012-02-22T08:25:48.882-08:00Growing up in a non-traditional home I find myself...Growing up in a non-traditional home I find myself wishing that this information would have been made readily available to my parents.I think that most important aspect is the cooperation and goals of the parents. Open communication between split parents is key to providing consistency in the child's non-traditional life.<br />-Jordan MillikenHBSE Spring 2012 Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09043264760049137060noreply@blogger.com